Doing this from my phone right now because I’ve been promising you guys forever that I’d deliver this life update. Ive been honestly procrastinating on this part 3. Bot really sure what to say. But we’re just going to keep it short and sweet.
Basically over the course of 2 weeks, we found out a bunch of horrible news in my family and the family of those I care about. People have been sick and struggling with cancer and there were 5 deaths over the course of 9 days. This was all about a month ago while I was job hunting, struggling with illness, and right after we got back from Europe. So of course it was just a lot to deal with and I’ve really been fighting depression and issues with eating. My weight has been less than ideal, which isnt great as I’ve needed to be present for people I love and needed to fuel my body so it can recover from illness. Thats also one of the reasons I’ve been with my BFs family so much and having to endure meals with them, because we’ve spent endless hours helping and supporting them through troubles and I was exposed to a lot of family events with extended family.
So whew! You guys are basically now caught up to date from my time since I returned home from Europe. Exhausting I know! Yes, that is me drinking a beer, actually on the floor of my BFs new house! (Dont worry, I helped him shop for a couch). Normally I really avoid alcohol because it makes my workouts absolutely suck the next day or 2 (even if I only have one beer or glass of whatever) but you know what, sometimes its ok. Alcohol doesn’t really fall into the intuitive eating plan, so we’ll call it flexible dieting (even though I’m not supposed to be dieting. *Sigh*)
Depression and anxiety have been super real through all of this. I’m a very intuitive person and will pick up on the emotions of people around me. And of course a lot of the emotions of people I love dearly have been very strong and in certain cases that I’m being intentionally vague about (hey its the internet) it has been ansolutely heartwrenching to see the agony and mourning of some people very close to me. I can’t even begin to describe some of the emotions I and vulnerability I was both blessed and cursed to be a part of.
I don’t know why I’ve been so silent about everything going on with you guys. I think I feel like this should be a place of positivity, so in seasons of pain and struggle for me, I don’t want to expose you all to that. I want to be the perfect image of recovery and strength in life and be a good example of positive coping.
But life is not always rainbows and unicorns and I’m not perfect (what?!?! Shocker!) And there is freedom in vulnerability and honesty.
Ok this is turning out to be a bit of a longer update than I originally intended, but whatever. Welcome to my somewhat pathetic life of chaos. One more note on dieting and weight. I went into my dietitians office the other day and she said for the first time in 2 years “so it looks like you lost weight.” Busted. I went on to confess to her the struggle I’ve been having with using diet products masked as “health products.” I kinda feel like I’m in junior high again, but this is my confession. I live in a very well off kinda infamous county in KC. Its basically the “orange county” of the midwest. And theres a lot of messages about diet and “clean” eating in my age group. Its very much almost a righteousness deal with a lot of the more popular crowds (I know I said popular. I told you I felt like I was in junior high) and theres a lot of pressure to use certain products (like greens, oils, diet pills, etc…) from peers and friends who may be distributors. Even a lot of gyms I interviewed at sold these products that a friend of mine refers to as “steroids for women.” I’ve been using the excuse that its not in the finances for me to partake of some of these green drinks and shakes, but a friend of mine has been sending me some seemingly harmless samples and that can’t be so bad right?
Well its bad when it gives you a sense of self righteousness. Its bad when you have an eating disorder and you use diet products or drinks instead of food. Its bad that its harmful to my personal menatal health and well being.
Note: I am not saying its bad to use these products, nor am I saying its good. My personal opinions aren’t relavent to all ya’lls decisions about what you chose to put into your body and why. I’m not saying anything one way or the other about any particular company. I’m just saying for me I know that purchasing these products is a negative for my recovery.
So yeah, side note there that that has been a struggle. I did order some products against the advisement of my dietitian (another *sigh*). I’ve been doing a lot of research on the science of these products and if you DO want my personal opinion let me know. Otherwise I’ll just leave it at that.
Sorry for the tangent. Maybe that was just another top on the way to procrastination station to keep myself from thinking about the mourning and everything thats going on.
Hope you all are doing well.